Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Think Before You Pass Out

Why, why do Young Women leaders persist in doing this?
Treats are lovely, everyone loves sweet things, and YW leaders love to dress them up with tags, ribbons, and extra meaning. But the gospel doesn't need this kind of embellishment.
Just say NO to crap.


  1. I'm so happy to have someone back me up on this. Food is not required at every mutual and Sunday lesson. And being "cutesy" is not a requirement for being a leader.

  2. I remember getting these handouts as a young woman, and even then I didn’t like them. I would have traded a drawer full of handouts for a some one-on-one time with my leader, for her to come to one of my events, or just be kinder to me individually. I could have used more solid learning of the gospel and witnesses of the Spirit and less balloon centerpieces, treats, and die-cut handouts.
    This focus on style over substance changes the focus from the learner to the teacher as she sets herself up for compliments on her cute handouts. It also belies some gospel insecurity on the teacher’s part if they rely on this sort of kitchy stuff. And don’t even get me started on what we have done to girls camp.
    The Lord needs strong women in this church who eat both the milk and meat of the gospel, not "spiritual Twinkies" as Elder Holland says.

  3. let me first start by saying that i agree that we need more substance in our lessons and less frill and food. that's why i was attracted to this website. but, just as it has been pointed out, some teachers are insecure about their own abilities to teach a gospel principle. let's have compassion for that teacher, not judge her. thankfully church callings change regularly. maybe not soon enough in some cases. i feel the best way to handle these situations is to be a good example when it is our turn. we all grow in the gospel at different rates, we are all different. simple as that.

  4. Teresa - good reminder. I didn't mean to sound harsh. I just think the gospel principle is sometimes really hard to find in some of the examples of these pun/candy/treat handouts I've seen. Being a good example is best - agreed!

  5. I totally understand the concern about over-the-top handouts. I'm not into receiving handouts myself. I just throw them away. However, I feel the need to interject a different point of view here.

    I have four daughters, each with their own learning style. All of them learn differently than I do. They love handouts and actually keep quote journals that they read regularly. They tell me that these things remind them of the discussions and their good relationships with their teachers. Many of these are "catchy" things that might seem silly. But they do make things memorable.

    So, even though I'm not a "cutesy" person, I've tried to integrate some amount of this sort of stuff into my lessons particularly for my students that benefit most from visual or tactile methods. While it is true that the gospel requires no embellishment, not all minds work alike. We can't hope to foster strong women if we ignore these differences.

  6. I agree with Lorena. Some of the girls enjoy these things and save them and it helps them. Others don't. I hope not every girl and parent are so angry every sunday about lessons. It seems like a waste to be so irritated about a hand out. At least the daughter knew she didn't like it and that should be the end of it. Lets not forget that these callings are prayed about by at least 6 different people and then given. I read some of the comments on the original article and many seemed rather anti about the YW program which is worrisome.


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