This lesson points young women towards temple marriage as a life goal, stressing the blessings that come from living worthy before marriage and making God an integral part of the marriage relationship afterwards. There are no guarantees, but if faithfully followed, this path can lead to happiness on earth and the promise of eternal families and exaltation.
I prepared a supplement to another lesson that never got used, so I'll bring it into this lesson; it was a handout I made for lesson 3-4 on preparing to become an eternal companion. I didn't end up using it then, so I'll hand it out this week and ask them to hang onto it in their files for when they're seriously considering marriage.
If You're Thinking About Getting Married, You Better Have the Right Answers to these Questions (Or I will track you down and talk some sense into you).
- Does he bring out your best self?
- How does he act around family, and around children?
- Can he hold a good job, does he have plans for the future, and does he use his money wisely?
- Does he keep his promises to you and to others?
- Do the two of you share values that matter to you?
- Does he want the best for you, want you to achieve an education and will help you meet your own goals and aspirations in life?
- Can you talk easily? Are there some things that you avoid talking about together? Could that develop into a problem later?
- Some major danger signs = if he only thinks about himself, gets angry easily, can't handle changes in plans, doesn't consider your feelings or needs, treats you like a toy for his fun, bosses you around, is suspicious and paranoid, doesn't trust you, or doesn't share your educational/life goals.
As in my post for lesson 3-4, really there are two considerations here - 1) skills that will help in any marriage, and 2) why temple marriage should be a goal (with the acknowledgement that it will not be available to everyone). I will absolutely go on record saying it is better to marry the right person outside the temple than the wrong one in it.
What do you think of this "sacred triangle" analogy? God and the two spouses as the points of a triangle - how a marriage in which God is not a working partner is not reaching its potential. And, as usual, I fret about how to word what I say, how to emphasize the ideal and celebrate God's plan without discouraging those whose current families don't match it.